Getting a divorce from your once better half is a hard and rigorous process – all the more it is painful, not just on your part, but on the other party as well. What can you do, you’ve resorted to all means just to work things out: heading to a dream vacation to see if you can still work things out and even tried counseling. When it all boils down to the final decision, it’s hard to make sense of anything happening, which is pretty understandable.
However, you should always think of what lies ahead. You can make harsh and unreasonable decisions at this point when you’re hurting, which may only result in unwanted heartaches and wasted time and this may also cost you your fortune in the future.
This is why it’s important to know and understand the common divorce pitfalls so you can avoid them. Despite finding it hard to set aside emotions, you should protect yourself financially. Here are some ways to avoid mistakes of this process:
Take a Rest from Social Media
For some, going through the divorce process may be so heartbreaking that posting about it on social media is usually forgotten – then there are some who become more active when the process is still ongoing.
While it is acceptable that at one point you share relatable quotes or sayings about heartaches and breaking up, it is best to filter the ones that get seen by the public. Attorney Jacqueline Newman advised not to bash your ex on social media, even if you just want to get the sympathy of family and friends. Moreover, you should never brag about the lavish things you bought, even if this was retail-therapy.
Newman explained that this is because these things can complicate the divorce procedure more. Social media posts can also be evidence, so when you feel that it may incriminate you, better leave it offline or unposted.
As Much as Possible, Leave Things Out of Court Fight
A 2015 survey showed that there is an average of $15,500 cost in divorce, while those involving child custody and support matters reached an average of $19,200 – these numbers could still soar depending if they will go to trial.
That’s why Newman suggests that couples should try mediation first, which will not involve any lawyer and will only rely on a neutral third party to help make an agreement.
As such, it would cost lower than usual divorce proceedings but will only work if the former love birds are willing to ending everything smoothly – needless to say, both parties must be cooperative and open, especially when it comes to finances.
However, some couples don’t split amicably and this usually results in messy court trials. Newman recommends collaborative divorce, wherein each spouse gets their respective lawyers that are trained for negotiation of deals that will be fair to both of their clients. This is ideal for couples with problematic relationships but don’t want to shell out more money.
Never Abandon Joint Credit Accounts
Creditors don’t have a hand in your divorce and they’re not bounded by the agreement between you and your spouse because the contract existed even before the divorce process began.
Say your other half decided to take responsibility for the credit account, this doesn’t mean that you’re off the hook – you can still be accountable because both of you signed the account.
Here’s what you should do: divorcing couples should close the accounts first and then remove the authorized users from the credit cards. Then, transfer the loan or credit to the new account of the one who will shoulder the debt.
Prepare the Paperwork
You may not know it now, but you’ll certainly need some papers in the future, perhaps when your ex-spouse is unwilling to give them to you.
Personal financial specialist David Stolz said as early as now, you should gather documents that include balances and account numbers of your accounts, home improvement receipts, anything to prove payment for major assets like house and cars, and Social Security files that show your other half’s earnings and benefits.
Stolz further explained that these are the things that will be necessary for tax planning and retirement in the future. For example, a person who was married for at least a decade can claim from the Social Security survivor or spousal benefits based on the ex’s earnings history.